Action or not?

Action or not?

I am wondering today how others deal with hurt feelings...do you take action on them or not?

I know people who address hurt feelings with the wrath of God...they bear down and spew every piece of ventom that they have...when this happens things usually get bigger and bigger than they ever were and the hurt cuts deep...

I know people who shove those hurt feelings down...cover them up...say they don't matter, when they do...they cause a depression in themselves that causes havoc in their life that they just don't know how to fix...

I know people who simply run from hurt...

I know people who try to find the root of the hurt in order to heal...they try to understand the other person so that they can work through the hurt...

I use to be one of those people who shoved everything down...down deep and covered it up with all sorts of things...and then I became one of the fight or flight people who would stomp my foot and fight for what I believed was right (didn't matter if it really was or not) or I would run as fast as I could from the situation in order not to deal with it...

As I have aged I tend to explore my heart...and I usually find that nothing is really hurting me...it hurts my ego...If I look to the root of the hurt I usually find that it has more to do with old baggage of my own...old patterns...fear or not having a voice...

I know that hurt feelings for me causes saddness...and I know that saddness is a very natural feeling...saddness sends me a message that something needs to change...and with age I am learning that I am capable of using my inner strength to deal with that change...to deal with my emotions...and to find the right way to work through those feelings without blaming someone else...

So...when you find yourself feeling hurt and sad by things how do you deal with them?

Do you take action or not?