Someone once asked me this age old question years ago...and my answer at the time was "to never have loved at all...but I was in the middle of pain that I could not let go off...Which I think is a pretty normal answer for anyone who is in pain...you figure if it never happened then you would not be feeling this way...
This morning as I contemplate this question my answer is totally different...perhaps that is because I am older (and perhaps wiser...LOL)...and a lot has to do with my mindset at the present time...
My answer is..."to have loved and lost"...WHY?
A shift in thinking...When most of us are in the middle of a loss we tend to focus on the negative...the "oh dear what am I suppose to do now?"...the "how will I survive?"...the "what did I do wrong and how can I fix this?"
When we could look to the positive...
I know that is not easy to do...but there are so many silver linings to every situation that we go through...we learn so many lessons about ourselves...we have wonderful memories despite going through this "loss"...in every situation we have the opportunity to grow...even in loss...we can find hidden strength that we did not even know we had...we can find a better path for ourselves...we can remember who we are and what we truly want out of life...and we can realize that we are worthy of love...and we can be kind and gentle with ourselves...
Sometimes we do love and we do lose...but to have never loved at all seems to me at this moment to be a very lonely place...
I choose LOVE!
What about you? Which one is better?
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